Life's a Stitch

And more recently life’s a creative adventure with some travel thrown in.

In my career and in parenting I’ve learned about picking my battles. You have to save your fighting inclinations for the things that are worth warring over. Now, I have a 16 year old and plenty of battles from which to choose. So, when he announced his intentions of sleeping on the sidewalk in front of Toys R Us, so he could be at the front of the line to buy a Nintendo, we had to seriously tap into our arsenal of reason. Never mind the fact that it was 30 degrees Fahrenheit outside and that we raised this boy without the benefit of electronic equipment such as TV, except for occasional videos, and still only have the first, most basic of Nintendos. As a little guy, other parents felt sorry and recorded Power Rangers for him, lest he miss out. Forget the constant battles over school work and the moral dilemma of conspicuous consumption, was this one really important enough to invest huge amounts of energy?

I packed him up in multiple layers, a thermos of peppermint tea, a foil space blanket and educated him as to the symptoms of hypothermia. I warned him it was so cold outside that the shelters were rounding up the homeless into a variety of warming stations. I tried to instill reason in him by equating the monetary outlay in terms of hours worked at his just above minimum wage job.

I secretly hoped that upon closing at 11:00 pm, Toys R Us management would see these kids, realize the liability issues and assign them a number, sending them home to return at dawn. Nuh uh, for them this was a priceless p.r. opportunity. Passersby where of two ilks. The "way to go" types and the proselytizers – there are kids starving and you waste your time and money hanging in front of a capitalistic pig toy store.

When I awoke at 6:30 a.m. I looked out the window to see an inch of snow on the ground. I tuned into the AM radio news station hoping not to hear of spoiled middle class kids sent to the hospital, victims of exposure. The telephone rang.

A jubilant Bryant proclaimed victory. He was #2 in a line of 50 waiting for Nintendo Wii’s and Tickle Me Elmo’s. Accompanying him in line were dads and kids (no moms, go figure) and at the front was a homeless guy, paid to wait it out, since he was in his element anyway. I’m too tired to figure out the moral implications of that one.

So my boy, for the first time in his life, is ahead of the pack in electronics anyhow.He’s created a memory to last a lifetime, he’s no worse for the wear and even mom survived unscathed.

That’s my story on this, the eve of Christmas, my third in blogland. Wishing you a Merry Christmas, full of the real meaning and blessings, and hope for a better year to come.

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18 responses to “On conspicuous consumption and Christmas”

  1. Carole Avatar

    He survived. And I’m guessing he learned some valuable lessons, too. You may not hear about that right away, though, as he’ll be completely entranced by the Wii. I hear it’s fabulous – have fun!

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  2. Monika Avatar

    I had to laugh so hard reading your story! We didn’t have TV as my kids were young (which was hard on my husband), but from a certain age on I couldn’t prevent the technology to arrive at our house. Now my son’s a total tech nut who loves TV. Ha!
    Merry Christmas!

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  3. Beth Avatar

    I’ve never been able to muster the gumption to battle it out to get the exciting toys of the year. My poor aunt and uncle have been in many lines this year trying for a Wii for their grandson and are always beaten out by a horde of 30-something slackers who want to put them on ebay. They’re always just one or two numbers away from the last one. I think there’s better ways to spend Christmas time.

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  4. Jane Toumpas Avatar

    I have to tell you my ‘pick your battle” story with my 11 year old daughter. We were getting ready to go to the Nutcracker with our Grammy and my middle schooler puts on a pair of nice black dress pants with a long sleeved black tunic shirt with a bit of sparkle on it. She then puts on her beat up rag of a hooded red zip up sweatshirt. I say “Could you at least wear the nice velvet black hoodie?”
    She replys with ” Oh Mom,I can’t! I would look so Goth!” I walked away and counted my blessings! Merry Christmas to you all!

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  5. Dorothy Avatar

    Well, at least you have a Christmas story to tell his kids and grandkids! Who knows that they will think or what the world will even be like then? Gracie looks adorable in front of the tree. Have a wonderful Christmas with your family – we’re off to the airport in an hour to pick up Izzy (well, and her parents too)! Merry Christmas.

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  6. jayne Avatar

    That’s a good story. When I was in grade-8, my best friend and I stood in line for hours and hours so that we could go to the first showing of the new Star Trek movie (the first one). We were total Trekkies.
    Merry Christmas, Li!

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  7. Emma. Avatar

    Season’s Greetings !
    Wishing you and yours a fab holiday and a wonderful 2007.

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  8. Lalura Avatar
    Lalura

    Best wishes to you and yours for a happy and healthy 2007!

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  9. Donna Avatar

    I’m of the pick your battles mindset, too, and I think you did the right thing in this battle!
    We’ve always had TV/electronics with limits! I don’t see the harm of it myself as long as that’s not what anyone is doing 24/7. It’s worked for us. Our daughter has loads of things she enjoys more than TV, and thankfully, she’s not a video game addict!

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  10. Angie Avatar

    This is a tough battle. We’ve been without cable for 5 years and my husband is looking forward to a HUGE TV from the boxing day slaes. He’s getting the one that is compatable with games.
    They may stay in the basement all year. What can you do?
    I’ll try to look at it as more uninterrupted knitting.

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  11. wendy g Avatar

    Merry Christmas Li!

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  12. Michele Avatar
    Michele

    Great story. Merry Christmas!

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  13. Beth Avatar

    Ahh yes – waiting online all night for __________ (concert tickets, electronic games, fill in the blank). A true right of passage.
    And good for you … knowing which battles to pick.
    Merry Christmas!

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  14. Daisy Avatar
    Daisy

    In Ottawa, parents line up in minus 30 degree celcius weather to get their kids into a public! high school. Last year, if you arrived after Thursday morning you were out of luck come Monday morning when they only took the first 70 applications. We are contemplating doing this in February but I don’t know if I can sleep in a tent in the cold for 4 or 5 days.

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  15. Midgeling Avatar

    LOL, good for him and good for you! My oldest is 13 right now and I am wondering what we will have to contend with as she gets older. I am most worried about the youngest daughter. She is th one who will be trouble later on, lol!

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  16. Barbp Avatar

    16 years old? Not bad Mom – sounds like you’re dealing with a 16 year olds need for a little more independence just fine. That said – did he come down with a cold? smile That’s just about the cutest Christmas pooch I’ve seen in a long time.

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  17. Christine Avatar

    Ditto! My darling son did the EXACT same thing, except forgot his coat (duh!) He quickly grew bored with it and it now resides on e-bay for an exchange for the Ninento 64 premium, which has always remained his favorite generation. At least this year he sold something HE paid for, not a Christmas present that I gave him six months later (and nearly had to kill to get it!)…Happy Holidays!

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  18. Val Avatar

    Did he take the nose ring out for the “sleepover”? Those things conduct the cold straight to the brain, ya know!

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