Life's a Stitch

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Hope you all had a nice Mother’s Day. I am a full time working outside the home mom. I’ve been one for years. It works so well for me, I think I’m a better mom for being a working mom. The problem is that I bought very early into the philosophy that says you can’t do it all, and have become very lax on the housework side of it. We ‘re not at the income level that I felt comfortable having house cleaners, besides, I couldn’t face picking up the house for the cleaners to do their job.

Here’s the problem – the kids, two of them, anyhow, have learned my terrible habits. Bryant’s room was so bad you couldn’t see the floor. Then he started sleeping in the family room because he couldn’t make it to his bed.  The other night he had the nerve to grump at me for disturbing him at 2:30 in the morning when I was combating sleeplessness with blogging. Whose family room is this anyway?

Time to attack the problem. After hauling out three garbage cans of junk, a bag for the Goodwill, and a box of garage sale stuff, we recovered four laundry baskets (none of which contained dirty clothes), three bottles of allergy nasal spray and two full containers of Folex spot remover (I wondered where they had gone and why were they in his room?) He now insists that all he wants in his room is a mattress on the floor – the minimalist look. Trouble is that he still has too darned much junk and no place to put it. He won’t even have underneath the bed space to stuff things. Any creative solutions? Anybody want to take him in and return him trained? Just asking.

Yikes, my computer monitor screen, the one attached to the CPU with all my photos and blog stuff, is black and has a message, something to the effect of: config.sys is not available or damaged… So I’ll dig through my laptop and find a photo to leave you with. How about an FO: a v-shaped shawl made from Heavenly yarn:

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13 responses to “A better mom”

  1. Jane Avatar

    Must of been something in the air for Mother’s Day cleaning up our kids pig piles! As soon as it stops raining here in New England we are setting up a garage sale! We have a “rain day” no school today . That’s a first for us! I quess I will go and tackle my bedroom. The acorns don’t fall far from thier tree. hee! hee!

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  2. Jenny Avatar
    Jenny

    Ha, ha, I had to giggle. We have similar problems. My middle son is the last one at home. He decided to clean up his room by piling all of his extra stuff into his younger brother’s former room. Except….now the younger one plans on moving back home!! There is no space in there to even walk right now! We have to figure this out soon as the youngest plans on moving back in July or August. Oh yeah, when I can’t sleep, I lay there and think, well, can’t go there, can’t go there, etc etc . So, I take my needlework up to my bedroom when I go to bed, and if I can’t sleeep, I just sit up and turn on the dim little headboard light to work. Not ideal conditions, but…….

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  3. Dorothy Avatar

    As soon as he’s of age, you could marry him off and let his wife deal with it! But take heart – your children will never judge your skills as a mother on your housekeeping abilities, but the time you spent with them. That’s what important. Of course, I guess hauling garbage out of his room counts as time spent, so that’s two birds with one stone!

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  4. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    ‘Funny you should write about this today,since one of things on my list is shoveling out daughter #3’s room so she can bring her stuff home from college.
    I thought daughter #2’s habits would change when she had a home of her own. Wrong! Now we wade through her two little daughters’ stuff as well as her own.
    I have no solutions… just comiseration.

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  5. Lynne Avatar

    As a working mom for many years, I always dreamed of how nice it would be to have a wife!
    My house is a mess, and I don’t care anymore, we eat more dinners out than I cook in, and I don’t care anymore!
    With two of us, I can handle the laundry on a weekend morning, and if I don’t get to it, I just buy more underwear!

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  6. Lynne Avatar

    Oh, and what a lovely shawl, too, Li!

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  7. Donna Avatar

    Ellen is so right! Having a wife (one who stays home) would be most helpful. I, too, work full time at an outside job and full time as a mom. I don’t know that I do it “all” but I’m managing pretty well doing most of it. The house is clean though not spotless. I cook every day. Eating out is fattening and not at all satisfying. We’ve stopped doing it. It’s also more expensive than eating at home. We may not have a gourmet meal every day, but there is good, wholesome food on the table.
    Sorry…no solutions for a sloppy son! My daughter is a bit of a slob herself, but my ranting every couple of weeks gets her moving to clean her room and her bathroom. I think that the time she had to clean the bathroom after letting it go for TWO MONTHS cured her of letting it get dirty again.

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  8. Beth Avatar

    I must say, there’s comfort in numbers. I’m so glad to see I’m not the only one going through this. And yes, they do come by it naturally. I was just lamenting to a friend that I’ve got to take control of the house again because it’s depressing me and giving me migraines. And unfortunately, my children are learning my bad habits. Ugh!!!

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  9. Leah Avatar

    Hello! Lovely shawl! Happy mothers day!

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  10. Maureen Avatar

    Ahhh, sounds all too familiar. Nice to know I’m not alone. Hope you had an enjoyable mother’s day.

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  11. Rosie Avatar
    Rosie

    Hi Li: For Mother’s Day I requested that the kids clean up their rooms. That is all I wanted. I also requested a “Laundry Party”. Jamie actually complied and cleaned his room up which had clothes everywhere (clean ones) he hadn’t put away. Patrick only made a nominal attempt. I will work on him tomorrow.
    Love, Rosie

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  12. knitagarden Avatar

    My college age son is due home next week, however, my husband drove to the college this past weekend to get load #1 of his junk (we drive small cars). I’ll do part two next week, loading my car with load #2 and bringing him home with all his ‘stuff’. Then it is left in the garage where I’d like it put under lock & key & not one iota of it sneaking into the house. Stay at home moms can have the same housework issues, ya know. Housework is its own entity for those of us who choose to busy ourselves with better things to do than housework….I favor letting your son go w/his minimalist idea–that’s what I did when my son lived at home. Yes, there will be the junk pile following him around, but he will edit it & eventually that pile heads to college with him & hangs around a little longer until it is finally deleted.

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  13. sherry Avatar

    Oh Li,
    I worked for years, and believe it made my son more independant.Make him sleep in that messy room. LOL. My son at college this year, complained as his roomates wereleaving lights on.HA!!(lived off campus and shared a house)as far as housework, it is NOT number one. Till the ants come a calling.

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